Do you ever have those days, weeks, months where it feels like nothing is going right? Who am I kidding? We all have those days. And those days are okay to have. The ultimate thing is what to do when nothing goes right.
One thing you’re going to learn really quickly from me though is that I am one that will hand you the spoon for the ice cream but shortly after you’re done, I am going to be throwing the carton away, grabbing you by the hand, and coaching you all the way to get back at it.
What to Do When Nothing Goes Right
Live In the Lows
One of the biggest things to remember for what to do when nothing goes right is to live in the lows. Yes, live in the lows. Life is a heartbeat.
Each beat has a high and each beat has a low. If you are at a low point in life, guess what? You are still living! Look up and know that this temporary.
Keep Putting Yourself Out There
If you had not put yourself out there, you would have never received that “no” email that you just opened. And I can guarantee if you don’t continue to keep putting yourself out there, you’ll never get that “yes” email either.
It is so easy for us to retreat when we feel in our lows. We are scared for that feeling to continue and to receive one more moment that will knock us down.
I am notorious for this. I will stop everything that I have been working toward in fear of never succeeding. I would rather never see the light of day on a project than see it go down in flames.
There’s just one thing wrong with this. My work will never see anything at all. How sad!
This Wasn’t Meant for You
I think one of the biggest things that makes me feel like nothing is going right is when I am rejected. I work in a creative field and when you create things, they feel like a part of you. When rejection comes it is very easy to take it personally because of this.
However, I have to keep reminding myself that it isn’t “me” they are rejecting. My work just isn’t a fit for the need. Life is the same way.
Sometimes we just aren’t the right fit for the job, the relationship, the project. It isn’t personal. Our abilities and gifts are needed elsewhere. That goes back to continue to put ourselves out there when things don’t go right. If we don’t, we will never be found.
Don’t Let Anyone Tell You Otherwise
Don’t let anyone tell you to stop what you are working toward. This includes yourself. When things aren’t going right, that voice inside gets a lot bigger. Don’t let it overwhelm you.
Surround with Positive
Call your best friend, your mom, whoever that person is in your life. Let it out. Let everything out. Cry, scream, vent, get it out. Then listen.
Pick the person who is going to understand your upset but then also offers you how to fix it. Even if they simply tell you to let it go.
Step Back and Then Attack
When we are backed into a corner, we make bad decisions. When nothing is going right, first try and step back. Analyze the situation, take some personal responsibility to what you can control and change, and let go of what you cannot.
Breath, listen to a favorite podcast, take a walk, make a plan of action, then attack what needs to get done to move right on back up to the top.
Hang in there, friend. I completely understand the overwhelming feeling of when nothing goes right. I often feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders but I keep bench pressing that sucker because it will make me stronger.
Keep putting yourself out there and keep being you. No one likes feeling like the world around them is crumbling but I know when the dust settles, things are going to look a lot clearer to you.